Question:
me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month and im moving 3 hours away we love eachother very much he even talks about marriage hes two years ahead of me in high school but we dont care about that but im worried he might not want to stay bwith me after such a long seperation he says to not worry he will see me whnever he can and he will always love me
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It is possible yes, but I haven't heard to many good things on long relationships...but if it don't work out then you know it wasn't meant to be, and if it does then you know he and you have a good and strong relationship with eachother, you are both still young and you still have a lot ahead of you...so take you time and worry about other things. It has only been a month, so whether its love or lust you are feeling will be determined later on down the road.
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Oh wow only a month and you all seem very close. Did you all know each other for a while before that? If you did, then you can have a good chance. But if you have only known each other for a month or a few months, it can be tricky. In relationships usually the first 6 months or so are very exciting, sometimes it's even less than this, and after a while you may get bored with them. That's one way to tell if you are really meant to be with them.. with time you make sure you still have fun being with them and you don't get bored. That is great that you two are happy, but it is still a very new relationship.
I was with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and moved 3 hours away for college. What we did was take turns driving down to see each other on the weekends. I had to find a weekday only job and he had the same, so it actually worked out. I put a lot of miles on my car and spent a good amount on gas (haha) but it was totally worth it. I am not sure if you are able to drive yet, but maybe he is and I hope he would be able to see you every now and then. It might not be every week, might not even be every month.. but you both will see if you are able to handle that and if you want to make it work. You will have to talk a lot on the phone and even online.. every bit makes a difference! Just make sure there is good communication and if it is meant to last, then it will.
I wish you two luck!!
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MC-
I feel for you girl. I know it's hurting you that you have gotten so close to this guy and are now moving. I can't say that this will or will not last, but what I do have to say probably won't be something you want to hear sweetie.
First, you said that he is two years ahead of you in high school which puts you at the very most in the 10th grade. You have probably heard this before and don't want to hear it again, but both of you are still very young. Yes, highschool sweethearts have stayed together and gone on to get married and have that true, long lasting first love. I know it can happen because our good friends are proof of that. We ALL went to high school together (my husband and me, and our friends) and they are still together and happily married. However, the actual cases of highschool sweethearts staying together and going on to get married aren't huge in numbers. At such a young age, relationships are usually different because you really haven't lived enough "life experiences" to really know what a long lasting, mature, stay together through thick and thin kind of love is. It's more of a "fairy tale" kind of love. I hope this makes some kind of sense.
Second- Long distance relationships, although they can and do work for some people, usually don't last very long- especially when the people who are in the relationship aren't able to at least drive to wherever the other one is and actually be able to spend some kind of quality time together. For a relationship to grow and become stronger, the two people have to spend quality time together. Again, I'm not saying long distance relationships don't work. I'm saying it takes a lot of patience, time, trust, and effort to make them work.
Third- If you two have only been together for a month, then you two haven't truly had time to build a firm foundation for a long distance relationship. You two are really still just getting to know each other sweetie. You are still basically in the "honeymoon" stage.
Now, having said these things, I want you to know that if you and your boyfriend really want this to work, then I wish you both the very best because I believe in love and I always wish for happy endings with young love. Enjoy being young, and enjoy experiencing all the things life has in store for you. Good Luck, and I hope you like your new home and that you meet some great new friends.