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don't take their rudeness personally, it's their own issue and just be happy you aren't as bitter and nasty to others. these days, you sort of have to float along in your own cloud of content and let negative people bounce off of you in the mindset that you pity them for being so negative and thank goodness you don't have to take out your problems on innocent bypassers.
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Cand P
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Its amazing that you posted this thread. I feel exactly as you do regarding modern society. It sometimes comes to the point of consuming me,, when I realize that the world has become a immoral and unashamed place.
I want to believe that the majority of people in the world are good,,, but when you continually come across shiftless and cunning people its very difficult to maintain that "rose colored" view.
In my opinion the only way society can change is thru the proper raising of our children. No matter the socio-economic strata,,, it all comes back to this basic fact of life. The world has become a shameless society and parents need to teach their children that they are not entitled to anything and that the world does not owe them anything and that they must educate themselves and earn what they want in life, while at the same time ,, showing them and teaching them ,, that morality and values, such as caring for others and showing kindness, and compassion is a positive trait. Parents should stop teaching their children to be cunning and aggressive and uncaring about other people.
We raised our son to be happy and cheerful and sincere and kind and to care about other people. It was not easy,, but nothing in life is easy. He has graduated college and lives in NYC and I know that if you accidentally bump into him,, he will give you a big smile and say "Excuse me" . Its that simple,,, you have to look for the good people and be consumed by them.
Cheers to you and remember to always have a happy outlook and good things will come your way.
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Believe me I know what you're talking about. I live in Brooklyn and have 2 jobs in Manhattan (one full time mon thru fri and another part time on weekends) and it does take some adjusting to. For example I used to live in Brooklyn long ago and then moved to Jersey briefly in a more rural like setting. Having lived there for a year or two I got used to the courtesy and atmosphere free of anxiety and stress. Every day as I drove by my neighbors waved to me, or warned me if there was a closed road or just did other little courteous and civilized things. At first I even felt a tad brutish or boorish having came from the city and being a little brusque and forward. But soon I got used to it and began to enjoy the calm atmosphere, then about 6 months ago I moved back to Brooklyn and began working in Manhattan and I had to re adjust to everything again. The first couple weeks I was actually a bit depressed, disappointed, and sick of society because of how people seem to act especially on the crowded subways and streets. Soon, I got pretty much desensitized to it once again and now I'm used to it but for a while I did have a bit of anxiety getting up for the morning commute with other morning weary straphangers.
I know that it's little incidents like the one that you've described that highlights these things but really you should not worry about it because, a place like the city is very different from other parts of the world or country, people are bustling and busying themselves and no one is just awlking around or doing nothing, everyone is traveling purposefully and just want to get to their destination with the least amount of hassle, you should just take that in mind and just accept that it's a very busy city and don't let it bother you.
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The incident you share is a very sad story about where we are. When things like this happen we know it is important but it is hard to really know why it is important. My guess is that this was a game that mother and child played out before. It did allow them to bond at your expense. I think we have lost touch with the truth that other people’s welfare comes back to affect all of us. Has your attitude toward children and strangers been changed a little. The good experiences you had with people in the past did not prepare you to deal with this situation. Will the time come when in a similar situation you will shout back, “You need to keep a better eye on your troublemaking brat!” And, that time it might truly be an accident.