Question:
I am a disabled, wheelchair bound and 54 years old. It seems as I have been in
a dysfunctional family all my life. I used to drink alot but haven't drank more than 10 beers since 2000. So I got that problem out of the way.
I don't know really where I am going here...I presently live in the same house with two of my daughters and their children (3) and their father my x-husband. No, him and I are not together. We haven't been since 1987. He was living with my middle daughter and her son, age 10. My youngest daughter and her two children ( 2 & 7) and I had to move in with them due to
unforeseen financial problem.
I pretty well get along with everyone. My biggest problem right now is my middle daughter that is here. Things are to the point I think I am going to go crazy. She is constantly yelling and screaming. Believe me she doesn't need an excuse. It seems like a day can't pass without her going off on me for some reason or another. She can be a very cold person. She has no respect for anyone. Sometimes I wonder if she even has respect for herself.
She gets so angry over some of the littlest (SP) things. Like tonite the tea jug was empty. Has been since last nite. So what does she do. She starts yelling at me for not making anymore. She said that all I ever do is sit at my computer and do nothing. I disagree with her on this but doesn't seem to matter. I have to sleep in my recliner because of my disablility. So I guess you could say the living room is kind of like my sleeping place. I try to keep this room clean. But as kids will do they mess up. Now she doesn't work. In my opinion all she does is sleep, stay up until 2 or 3 am on her computer in her bedroom then sleeps most days until after lunch. Then when she gets up she takes control of the tv. Which doesn't bother me as I don't watch TV during the day. She gave me her old computer last year as she got a better one. When she gets angry and mad she has even threatened to take it back.
Right now the only income coming into the house is from me and my youngest daughter. In the past 4 months I have put in over $1900.00 into the household. If it could be done my youngest daughter and her kids and I would be living somewhere else. But it can't be done right now.
Today she said she was having the long distance taken off the phone because I had $15.00 worth of long distance last month on it. I normally don't call anyone other than my mom once a month. But last month my sister had a heart attack. My daughter said my mom could call me I wasn't going to call her anymore. So I guess it is back to calling cards again.
I don't know I guess I just needed someone to talk to. I don't have any friends since I lost my leg in 2000. Most of what I thought was my friends said they just couldn't be around me as I made them uncomfortable. I still haven't figured out how that is my fault.
Well, I guess that is all for now. Thanks everyone for letting me say what I am feeling.
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your story made me want to cry. I hope it gets better for you.
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Thank you all for you comments. That really means alot to me. Somedays are good and others are bad. I have learned to cherish the good days and try to put the bad behind me. Unfortunatly, my daughters son, who is only 10, is getting just as bad as her. He can be a holy terror to everyone in the house, including her. Thing is with him he isn't afraid to tell her exactly what she is doing is wrong. He is very blunt with her. Which I guess is ok. He is so much like her. It worries me as I just don't won't he to wind up as bitter and cold as she is most of the time. But, I guess it is just one of those wait and see games.
Again Thank You Everyone!!
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I wish I could do more to help you, but words on a screen from someone who cares is better than nothing, right? Your daughter should be ashamed of herself for being so nasty to you. You are providing a home for her, your other children, grandchildren and an ex husband. What a situation!
I guess if you try and tell her how you feel she only screams more, which makes the problem worse. Is anyone else in the house witness to these verbal attacks and on your side? If so, get everyone to rally together, have a family meeting, and tell her that her behavior is unappreciated and unacceptable! You don't deserve to be treated this way.
I sure hope things change for the better and I'll keep an eye out for your replies! Good luck and best wishes to you!
Amy